How long has it been since your former significant other and you parted company?
It may be not all that long ago or it could be many years since you’ve last seen one another. Either way, what if your ex is trying to work their way back into your life? Is that something you would be comfortable with?
When relationships end, they oftentimes do so for one main reason.
Whether it was infidelity, money, a career change for one or both parties, the reasons can be endless. As such, there may or may not be blame placed with one or both individuals.
In your particular situation, why did the relationship come to a halt?
Are Kids Involved?
When your ex may be trying to get back into your life, there is no doubt a lot of emotions can be going through your head.
First, do you even have interest in having them come back your way? It may be too much for you to handle. Having to relive those feelings again might be something you do not want.
Another factor to look at is if you have children.
Would it be good for your children to be around your ex? Depending on custody arrangements, your ex may not have had contact with your kids for a while. As such, is now the time to reacquaint them?
Still another issue at hand can be what if your ex changed over time, albeit not for the right reasons.
What if your ex has had criminal issues since you two parted company? Would you expect them to be upfront about it?
One way you can dig for such details is by going online to search for people.
In entering an ex’s full name with a public records search, you may find info your former partner did not want to share. For example, did he or she get charged and convicted of assault, robbery, a DUI or something else? While most people would agree everyone deserves a second chance, it may be too much for you to overcome.
That may be the case if you have younger children and are afraid such a criminal record could put them in danger.
Where Are You At in Life?
Another issue in all this may be where you are at in life right now.
For instance, has your life been calm for the most part since you and your ex said your last goodbyes? If so, you may be reluctant to bring a big piece of your past into your present and even future.
While you may have a desire to relive what were good times in the past, you may feel reservations about going back.
If your life is doing well on your own or even with a new dating partner, there’s a chance you ex will end up staying in the past.
Making this decision is not always going to so easy. There can be a lot of factors to go into whether you want them back in your life to one degree or another.
If an ex is trying to get back into your life, decide if he or she would benefit you or detract from your life moving forward.