Moving abroad and having kids are two absolutely massive life events, but they don’t have to be mutually exclusive. Sure, it’s probably not a good idea to plan a move while seven months pregnant, or with a newborn in tow, but raising young kids abroad, and having kids abroad are both doable. All you really need is a solid plan, and the right moving companies. The question is, should you move abroad before, or after you have your kids?
If Living Abroad is Important to You, Do It Now
Moving abroad is a huge thing. It’s expensive, stressful and difficult, but can prove rewarding, and utterly exciting. It can be the fulfilment of all your adult dreams in some cases. However, the opportunity doesn’t hang around forever, you might lose that job offer abroad, or something might happen tying you closer to home. If it really matters to you go for it.
Don’t use the fact you want kids as an excuse not to do it. There’s plenty of reasons to raise kids abroad, and plenty more excuses to make to yourself. Stop making excuses and go for it.
Raising Kids Abroad Broadens Their Horizon
Much like playing music for kids during their formative baby years increases their future musical abilities and predilections, raising your kids in a multi-lingual environment is going to give the multiple languages to start with, and then greater skill at learning further languages. Do you know how much of an asset that is in life? Combined with a solid education, that’ll see their future job prospects literally ballooning.
Plus, you’ve got to remember that raising your kids abroad is always going to powerfully broaden their horizons in other ways. They’ll have their connections back to your home country through you, and your family, and then they’ll have language, friends and experiences of another countries culture. That’ll teach them all about the world, and give them the balanced upbringing that simply staying in your home country couldn’t have.
But they’ll have a Limited Connection to Your Home Country
Having said all that, they’ll never have your British or American identity (if that’s where you’re from). They’ll never be traditionally similar to you in a lot of ways, and if you’re a patriot, that could be problematic. They’ll take on a lot of the attitudes and cultural stylings of the country they grow up in. That’s just a fact of life.
Whatever you decide to do, the important thing to remember is that you need to just get on with it. You’re faced with two huge life events in both moving abroad and having kids, both of which have very real use-by dates on them. All you really need to do is make a choice and get moving, you’ll regret it otherwise.